Though recognizing that you need to get a divorce may be tough, it can ultimately improve your life. Still, your family will likely go through months or years of difficulty before finding a happy status quo. Divorce is perhaps most difficult for children, who are suddenly forced to say goodbye to the only life they’ve known. As a parent, you can make the divorce process as painless as possible by following these tips.
Prepare the Talk Beforehand
Generally speaking, it’s a good idea for both parents to deliver the news of divorce together. Before you and your spouse sit your child down for a talk, plan out what you’re going to say. Try to anticipate your child’s questions and show that you and your spouse are of the same mind.
Answer Questions Honestly
Telling half-truths or outright lies will only confuse and upset your child later on. Still, you don’t have to provide intimate details of your marriage. If your child asks why you’re getting a divorce, tell him that you and your spouse simply don’t get along anymore.
You must tell your child that the divorce has nothing to do with him. Assure your child that you love her now and always, but that you and your spouse will be happier apart. Be sure to mention that you will both still be involved in your child’s life, and that you’ll try to minimize changes.
Don’t Blame the Other Parent
Presenting a unified point of view is the healthiest way to discuss divorce with your child. Though it may be tempting, you should refrain from blaming your spouse. Compromising your child’s relationship with her other parent will only make the divorce process more difficult.
The divorce attorneys at Rion, Rion & Rion have decades of experience helping Dayton residents get through the divorce process. We can represent your interests and your child’s interests during negotiations and in court, if necessary. Call (937) 223-9133 to schedule an appointment.